You get off of work, and settle down to watch some television. You might catch some news on the television or open your computer and catch some updates there. For me, it used to be a time that I relaxed. It was a time for a reprieve, gab that treat, and exhale. It was that ah moment. The thing is that now we can’t seem to have that time.
Now it has become that Anxiety time. Do you feel it too?
- I see tears
- I see evil
- I see the injustice taking place
- I see the pain
- I see the no answers
- I feel helpless.
You can try and avoid the “news” per say, but your social media sites are still going to be full of the information, so that does not really work.
What I keep seeing is an undercurrent of fear. The tensions under the surface of forced calmness are like riptides. We all see them. We want to turn away. We want to pretend. Run. Hide. Shiver. Shake.
I have learned that there are several things in my life that I need to do to help myself.
Wait to Worry
I used to worry. A lot. It seemed that the more I fretted,, the more proficient I became at it. You see anxiety begets anxiety. I even worried at one point that I worried too much. My dad and grandfather had ulcers. I might get them. My health could fail. My finances could deplete to pay hospital bills.
I heard a comedian once say “I tried to drown my worries with gin, but my worries are equipped with flotation devices.” While I may not be a drinker, I could certainly relate to what was being said. I often felt as if my worries could swim, jump and pole vault!
I once read somewhere that we need to WAIT TO WORRY. You see, sometimes we just worry about something that might happen and we actually waste a lot of time because those things actually never do happen.
After some thought, I decided I’d wait until I actually had a reason to worry-something that was happening, not just something that might happen-before I took the time to worry. When I get tempted to get up in arms in something, I have to stop and say to myself, wait a minute, you know better. Is this a real possibility? Are you letting your mind have free reign? You see, until I know differently there is no reason to worry. (In fact as a Christian, my trust is in Christ and I have no reason to worry)
Did you know that the average worrier is 92% inefficient-only 8% of what we worry about ever comes true.
Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but only empties today of its strength. Charles Spurgeon
It is amazing how many people say that they want to be positive. We all know that it is advantageous to have that sunny outlook. Doors open to the optimist. The positive people are the ones that make friends, earn respect, close sales, produce loyal clients, and to be quite honest others want to be like them. How can we do this on a consistent basis? By our attitude. It is all about the attitude. It is also about what you allow into your life. If the people around you are all doom and gloom and worry all the time, it will be hard to maintain the Mr or Mrs. Sunshine attitude.
We all have to have an attitude of acceptance of some things. There are just some things in life that you cannot change. You can choose to have little temper tantrums and be angry and pout and put everyone around you through misery or you can accept what is going on and move on. Let me give you an example. My dad has Alzheimer’s. He recently needed surgery and we were told by anesthesia that his symptoms could increase. They did. His doctor decided he needed to go to a rehab center for some recovery time from a simple gall bladder surgery surgery as he was very confused and very agitated.
My mom and I had a really long talk about it today. we know the end result. It is what it is. You see there is no way around it. We know the disease will kill him. We know he will have to go to a home. In the meantime what do we do? We take one day at a time, one step at a time and we keep walking and growing through this journey and move onward.
Try this in your own life. Accept an It is what it is attitude with those things you cannot change and move on. Putting undue energy into something you cannot change is just a waste of your time. Don’t waste it, trust me, a cancer survivor, life is way too short.
Change those things you can change
Work your butt off to change those things in your life that you can change. You do not have to worry about it. Listen to Nike and Just Do it
Put all of that energy into lowering your blood sugar, loosing weight, getting more exercise, earning more money, or whatever your situation demands. When your energy is going into something you can see results with, it will help you to maintain that positive attitude as you will be rewarded with the positive feedback from your results. This in turn helps you to be that positive person to be around at home and at work and you can avoid the worry a lot easier and your focus is where it needs to be