From the time we are born, we learn, grow and develop our minds. The problem is that some of the things that are put into our minds are not necessarily the right thinking. For example, some people have to please other people. There is nothing in society that says we have to make our decisions and have actions that only please other people.
In fact, a person is not going to please 100% of the people 100% of the time. Click to Tweet
You do not need to be a person who needs everyone to approve of them. Click to Tweet
Your life does not need to be filled with drama or look like a soap opera. Click to Tweet
If we really want control of our public and private business, it is time to take back control of our lives. Gaining that type of control involves first gaining control of your mind. You have to clear yourself of corrupt thinking and become more effective in the things that you do. It may appear that these steps are as easy as 1,2,3 but that could not be further from the truth.
There are constant distractions pulling at all of us in one way or another.
Giving in to those distractions can dis-empower us rather that help us towards emotional freedom and meaningful connections.
Here are some simple steps that are not always so easy to implement:
Be selective about the media you consume. Click to Tweet
The world of social media is wonderful and is actually the path I have chosen as a career. I have learned that other people give offerings based on our personal information. We are stalked in a manner of speaking and although Facebook is a great tool for marketers, it is a disaster for the consumer. Remember that each of us in every type of business is also a consumer. Marketers are aware of that. Ads are pushed upon us until the will power gets weak. Emails, ads, webinars are all manipulative ways to get our attention. There is always a selling point, or a learn more for only x amount of money. Make sure that you are purchasing those things that will benefit those you love and yourself. I signed up for a webinar 12 hours ago that is supposed to be on a subject I wanted to learn about. Since that time I have received a total of 7 emails besides the confirmation email. You know the type: “Listen to this before the webinar” ; “Special Purchase that will help you get more out of the webinar”; and of course “Purchase now and save x amount of money before the webinar”. I was sent 3 videos, one 10 minutes, one 5 and the last was 20 minutes long. Of course I will not attend the webinar, but did you notice that I opened all those emails. I should have unsubscribed as soon as I felt like it was too much instead of just writing about it.
Prioritize your desires ahead of the external and internal resistance
Just starting my new business, my desire is to be on my lap top from the time I wake until the time I go to bed, working. Yesterday I had a horrible migraine and had to spend some time in a dark room to try and alleviate some of the symptoms. Later my grandchildren asked if they could come to the store with me. Instead of enjoying the time, my focus was on how much time I had missed, on a Sunday no less, working. My focus should have been on those children.
If you have a desire to do something, do not allow fear or other people’s opinions get in your way.
Fear is not there to scare you, but to let you know that something is worth it. Click to Tweet
If a pursuit makes you feel alive, go after it with gusto! Click to Tweet
Stop wishing for something and start working for it.
Someone once said “Do what you have to today so you can do what you want to do tomorrow”. Most people do not want an easy life, what we all want is a life we can be proud to say we lived. That does not come without work as well as growth. That growth comes only if we learn.
We can only learn if we are exposed. Click to Tweet
We will not become exposed if we do not put ourselves out there and learn through life’s difficulties.
The latest craze in social media is to be authentic, be real and be you. Click to Tweet
Why? Because it is your story that is going to help people to know like and trust you and is that not what we are all striving for? Click to Tweet
Create healthy daily rituals. Click to Tweet
Each and every day we decide what type of person we are going to be. Click to Tweet
When it comes to working hard to achieve a substantial life goal of any kind, a degree, build a business, foster a relationship, become more mindful, all take time and commitment.
Ask yourself “ Am I willing to spend a little time every day like others won’t, so I can spend the better part of my life like many can’t?” Click to Tweet
We do become what we repeatedly repeat, so take a look at the daily rituals of your life and determine if that is where you want to be. Click to Tweet
Flip your perspective from negative to positive.
Life comes with the good as well as the bad, learn to dance in the rain, you cannot have a rose without the thorns, and on I could go, but the bottom line is do not allow negativity influence you.
If those around you are negative, ignore them. I saw a post by @KimGarst showing a monkey swing on a rope and the words were: “Every time you feel yourself being pulled into other people’s drama, repeat these words…NOT MY CIRCUS NOT MY MONKEYS.” It may be tempting to get involved, but remember that the person trying to draw you in has their own perspective on the way things are going. There is always another perspective. Click to Tweet
The truth is usually in the middle right? So that means that people have interpretations of the truth and it is our interpretations that make us or break us. Make your life a garden and tend to it, see and appreciate that garden. Click to Tweet
The bottom line is that your quality of vision drives your quality of life. Click to Tweet
Learn to see the beauty in everything and learn to look for the best in others. Click to Tweet
Positivity is a choice. Your happiness in life actually depends on the effectiveness of your perspective. Click to Tweet
If you see yourself struggling with any of the above, you are not alone. I gave examples to show that I am far from where I want to be. Many of us are struggling right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly and to be more productive.
If you fail one day, that does not make you a failure, it just means you need to pick yourself up and start over the next day or the next minute. Click to Tweet
The goal is to start leading a better life and to gain control over the things that try to influence your mind. Click to Tweet
Now it is your turn: Please tell us what hinders you? What seems to keep you from having control? Thanks for sharing!